Archive for the 'Sex' Category

Pornoob.com

August 11, 2009 | Cool Links, Sex

I know all you ladies and queers are looking at porn, so don’t be shy about it! I joined Pornoob.com, an adult social networking site, and I’m posting pictures and video and trying to represent the gay grrls in porn. If you read other blogs and sites you’ve probably seen that men really dominate the commentary on porn. I know that more and more women and lesbians are watching porn, so why don’t we all speak up about what we like!? Sign up for Pornoob.com and add me as a friend and let’s chat.

Edited to add: Pornoob says use the code “bedrock” to sign up for your free account.

Mary Roach: 10 Things You Didn’t Know About Orgasm

May 21, 2009 | Health, Sex

Mary Roach has written article, columns and books about the science behind common life events, and she is most well known for her books on death and sex. Recently she gave a short talk called 10 Things You Didn’t Know about Orgasm. Watch the entire fascinating video HERE

darkPlay.net

May 20, 2009 | Sex

Ah, darkPlay! In 2000 darkPlay.net opened it’s online doors and introduced the world to all the dark kinky fantasies that women have. Even today, nine years later, there are still people propagating the myth that women are only interested in romance, sensual, soft core, vanilla types of porn. darkPlay.net is documentary evidence that women have dark fantasies and enjoy watching decadently sleazy porn.

This photo is from a recent update at darkPlay.net and shows the sort of wonderfully sleazy porn that I think many women can get behind. Look at that hideous hotel bedspread! The models are really lovers off screen, they’re really enjoying each other, they’re really fucking and licking and kissing, they choose to embrace manicures and boob jobs for their own personal enjoyment, and they don’t care what anyone else thinks. This is truly feminist empowered pornography.

Sex Toy Shopping Spree!!

May 19, 2009 | Cool Links, Sex

I’m a little late on posting things as usual, but I wanted to make sure and share this with all of you lovely readers out there.

Ginger Leigh from Sextoys.com is giving away a $1000 sex toy shopping spree. Head over to blog.SexToys.com to see all the details. I’ll be working on my wishlist tonight.

Rules:

First, create your wish list. Any product found on Sextoys.com may be included in your wish list. The only restriction is that the TOTAL value of your wish list must be equal to, or less than $1,000. Ginger Leigh has a very strict budget, and if you go over by even 1 penny, you will be disqualified, so keep the calculator at the ready.

Next, post your wish list to your blog or forum. THIS IS IMPORTANT: Wish list posts must contain the following to be eligible.

The product’s name

A link to the product on Sextoys.com

One sentence on why you want the product.

Make sure that your post contains the product name, a link to it on Sextoys.com and a sentence about why you want it.

You can select any combination of products, as long as the value of the entire list does not exceed $1,000. You may not duplicate products; Ginger doesn’t want one person hoarding all of the Fantasy Swings.

The final line of your post should include the total cost of your list and a link directly to this blog entry.

SEE A SAMPLE POST HERE.

*IMPORTANT – While we link to Extreme Restraints, those products are not eligible for use.

Make sure you post on a blog that you own, or in a forum where you are a member in good standing. Wish lists posted in comments sections of others’ blogs or in public forums will be disqualified. If you post in a forum and your post is deleted, you will be disqualified.

Once you have posted your wish list on your blog, send the permalink to your wish list post, your name and a contact number to experts @ sextoys.com. All entries must be received no later than Friday, June 5, 2009. On Friday, June 12, 2009, Ginger Leigh will conduct a drawing for the winner. The Winner will be drawn at random from the entire pool of entrants.

If your name is drawn, you win your wish list that you have posted.

Weekly Prizes: On May 3, 10, 17, 24 and 31, we will award weekly prizes, selected from all entrants who have posted before each date. The Winners will be selected by Ginger Leigh and guest judges. The prizes are awarded as follows:

May 3rd – The wish list with the sexiest toys for couples will receive a prize.

May 10th – The wish list with the sexiest toys for women will receive a prize. (Co-sponsored by Hotmovies for Her)

May 17th – The wish list that is kinkiest and most original will receive a prize.

May 24th – The wish list with the sexiest toys for men will receive a prize. (Co-sponsored by Hotmovies)

May 31st – The wish list with the most toys for under $1,000 will receive a prize.

By entering the contest, you certify that you are of legal age to receive a sex toy and that sex toys may be delivered to the jurisdiction in which you live. Contestants must be at least 18 years of age (21 years of age in some jurisdictions). Sextoys.com reserves the right to request a copy of a photo identification to verify age.

Spamming: You may create your wish list on your own blog, or in a forum where you are a member in good standing. Wish lists created in comments sections on other’s blogs, public forums such as Craig’s List, About, and other public forums will be disqualified. Sextoys.com does not support, nor tolerate the creation of spam.

Email: Do not email a wish list. Wish lists sent by email will be deleted.

Prizes: Grand Prize is all of the toys on the winning entry’s wish list for free (up to $1,000) delivered free of charge to an eligible winner.

Out of Stock: If a product on your wish list is out of stock, or discontinued before the contest ends, we will allow you to choose a product, or products of equal value to replace it.

Eligibility: No purchase is necessary to enter. Employees of Sextoys.com and any affiliated companies, as well as immediate family members of those employees, are not eligible to enter or win prizes. You must be 18 years of age (21 in some jurisdictions) or older to enter. By entering, you certify that you are able to legally receive shipments of adult novelties in your jurisdiction. Sextoys.com reserves the right to request a copy of a photo identification to verify the age of the winner.

Warranty: Sextoys.com offers no warranty on prizes.

Minx Addiction

May 17, 2009 | Cool Links, Sex

Minx is one of our long time Cyber-Dyke girlfriends with a personal website, MinxAddiction.com She is one of the few authentic goth altporn models out there with her own solo website. I know there are a ton of altporn and gothic fetish sites out there, but Minx is real. She may not be covered in tattoos and piercings but she’s not a plastic LA porn star doing it for the money. She’s a real grrl next door. She’s a woman that you would have in your criminal psych class or run into at a small metal or punk show. In addition to her website, she’s been featured in several different magazines such as Secret and Bizarre.

Minx is a juicy sweet femme who likes it on the bottom even though she’s a real tough gal. She was one of Zille’s lovers and then seduced Chrissy and Penny and the whole Cyber-Dyke staff really. Her website is now available to all cyber-dyke subscribers, so head on over to MinxAddiction.com to see all of her hot photos, video and writings.

Biphobia hurts us all

March 24, 2009 | Sex

I recently had some serious problems with a woman I was dating accusing me of being “not gay enough.” She told me that she thought I could never commit to a woman and that I was just in it for the sex. And OMG I have straight male friends that I might somehow accidentally fuck one day. Heaven forbid I allow a real live penis within fifty feet. This is not the first time I’ve encountered these “not gay enough” games and I’m frustrated by the whole thing. I really hate having to prove myself to be gay enough just because I’m willing to admit that I’ve had relationship with men and I make lesbian porn. How on earth would I prove that I’m gay enough? Do I have to get married or what? The California courts are still deciding on the same-sex marriage issue, so I don’t know if I could get married at this point in time.

I understand that there are quite a few women at the clubs who are looking for a threesome or a lesbian experience to show off to their boyfriends. I think these women are pretty obvious, so if you’re not interested it’s easy enough to avoid. I have no problems avoiding these types of situations! I also know that there are plenty of lesbians who have had relationships with men, myself included. I’m very aware of the dyke drama of who slept with a man this week. We all know that these things happen and we’re all still gay queer lesbians.

There are some huge misconceptions about bisexual women not being very queer, not being able to commit to women, only being interested in sex and that sort of thing. Tell me you don’t know any lesbians who are promiscuous and have commitment issues! Bisexual women are no different from us. They just happen to also be interested in men. We all know that labels for sexual orientation and gender identity can be just as troublesome as they are useful. I think it’s really pretty absurd to start excluding people and distancing them from the community when they want to be involved. I also know a number of gender queer and trans-folk that identify as bisexual because their own gender identity is fluid. All of these people are our allies, and we need all the allies we can get. Bisexual women are not trying to crash our party. They’re not trying to take advantage of us. Why does it matter so much if your ex left you for a man? She would still be your ex if she had left you for another woman.

Accusing and excluding only tears our community apart. Accusing women of not being gay enough is really unnecessary. Not only does it distance sincere lesbians, but it also turns away our bisexual allies. If you are not personally interested in romantic relationships with particular women, that’s your business. Don’t go ruining the scene just because you think someone is “not gay enough.”

Lesbian Ass Love

January 22, 2009 | Sex

I’ve always been an ass woman, I just didn’t always realize it. I didn’t dare try anal sex until I started dating women. I grew up in a very conservative small town, and I thought anal sex was weird. The men I dated were rough, and I didn’t like the idea of a rough guy shoving his cock up my ass. It was intimidating, honestly. When I started dating women I was introduced to a whole new range of possible sex acts, and pretty soon the fingers went wandering to that sweet musky hole. It didn’t take much to get me hooked because my lover was so gentle, I was aroused and my ass was so sensitive. It started with a finger, then a butt plug, and then a dildo. My ass is now a magic orgasm button. I still don’t do “hardcore” anal fucking. I prefer gentle stimulation and butt plugs.

I like to think that lesbians are more open to interesting sex because they aren’t constrained by old-fashioned sex-for-reproduction, but I really can’t make that assumption. I know a lot of women that love asses and anal sex, and you can see some of them over at Posteriority.net. I found this really great video of anal sex FAQs by Ducky Doolittle. It seems to be oriented to women having hetero sex, but I think anyone who hasn’t had anal sex yet can appreciate it. See Ducky’s video at CherryTv.

Size & Sexuality Study

January 13, 2009 | Sex

Scarlet Lotus Sexgeek at The Femme’s Guide to Everything is looking for women to answer a few questions about their body size and sexuality. See all the details at Size & Sexuality Study. I’m really excited about this and I can’t wait to see the results!

Roxxie on radio!

May 19, 2008 | Cool Links, Sex

I was invited to speak on an internet radio show panel on a number of topics. It was an interesting experience because the other two panelists had some different experiences and opinions. We talked about the California ruling on same sex marriage, Isabella Rossellini’s Green Porno films, and discrimination against pornographers because of our occupation. The topic of swinger’s parties came up, but I REALLY didn’t have anything to say about that one. Listen to the show on The Wet Spot internet radio show. Download episode 8.10 May 15th from The Wet Spot or from iTunes

There was one male panelist and the show host is also male. It was a bit strange for me because I interact with women more often in real life, and I interact with fewer men in the adult industry. It wasn’t a bad experience. It’s just that I’m not familiar with men’s experiences in the adult industry.

Sex and vegans

March 29, 2008 | Health, Pop Culture, Sex

In spite of the apparent popularity of Steak and Blowjob Day, vegan women are becoming increasingly more popular in the adult industry. Being vegan myself, I find this very exciting. I’m not entirely sure why vegans are so much sexier. Perhaps it is our healthy lifestyles, and compassionate natures. Maybe it’s just because alternative looking women are the trend of the moment, and a lot of those women are also vegans. Another porn star once mentioned to me that vegans smell better and have better tasting body fluids, and I agree. Perhaps we’re just better cooks. Fleshbot took notice of this trend but I don’t think they’ve seen long time cy-dy friend, Furry Girl’s website VegPorn.com

I think vegan visibility in the adult industry is a good thing even though I see sex workers and sex positive people getting all sorts of horrible comments in online vegan communities. I’ve never had anyone say a bad word about vegan porn to my face, but then I also generally don’t associate with people who would wish to say bad things about me to my face. I think that combining veganism and sexuality creates healthier attitudes towards our bodies and the highlights the importance of sexual health and diet in total health.