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A Hand in the Bird
Posted by Meredith on Oct 11, 2004 at 10:26PM in Sex - permalink

This piece was originally published in the online zine Dykewrite on November 20, 2002. Comments are welcome.

Well now! What does that make you think of? If you're politically focused, you might think of feminism and the struggle for equal rights. If you're like me, though, you think of one thing:

Fisting.

That's right, ladies (and any reading gentlemen). It's time to talk about my all-time favorite sex subject, one that is dear to my heart. I have been getting fisted for a while now, though I've yet to be on the other side. (After my pictorial in OOB, a reader wrote in that she would be happy to let me try it on her, but of course it never happened!) Because I've been familiar with it for a while, I've also done a lot of research and answered a lot of questions. In one particular online community, I'm the so-called "expert" on the subject - which means I get plied with the same questions every couple of months. So, again, I'm very happy to write about this.

Anyway! The first thing I want to say is that A Hand in the Bush is the absolute best book about vaginal fisting - in fact, I think it's the only one that focuses on that topic. (There are other fisting books, Trust: The Hand Book among them, but they tend to discuss anal fisting almost exclusively.) If you're curious about fisting females, if you want to try it, if you want to know why anybody would do such a horrible thing - you definitely need to read this book.

I suspect that vaginal fisting is probably easier for lesbians than for heterosexual couples, simply because the female hand tends to be smaller than the male hand. I don't have actual figures, but it wouldn't surprise me in the least to find that a greater percentage of lesbians engage in it than straight women. And although ass fisting is more commonly seen as a practice among gay men, there's no reason a woman can't do it too. (I haven't - yet.)

I'd like to pose a couple of questions in this entry; feel free to post your responses in the comments or use your own site. (Don't forget TrackBack!) Have you ever participated in fisting? If so, what role did you play, what gender was your partner, and what orifices have you (had) fisted? If not, are you interested in fisting? If not, what is it about the idea of fisting that you dislike? (What about it turns you off, or just disgusts you?) I look forward to reading your comments!

Comments

*Have you ever participated in fisting?

Yes!

*If so, what role did you play, what gender was your partner, and what orifices have you (had) fisted?

I’ve happily been both giver and receiver! Female, and just vaginal so far, but looking forward to anal someday….

I love fisting very much … and what I love best about it is that amount of trust you put in someone to let them put their whole fist inside you. The thumb is always “the moment of truth” for me – if my partner can get me to relax enough (not freak out and tense up at the last moment) then really intense orgasms are very soon to follow … but most especially, a special bond between my and my partner.

Fisting another girl … is always such a tender act for me. To be embraced by her whole … self … and to feel those orgasms moving her flesh … to see the look on her face … those moments my heart swells beyond belief!

For gals who have trouble taking a fist, I found that a favorite vibrator held on your clit by your or your partner really makes all the difference. Oh, and of course LUBE LUBE LUBE LUBE!

Posted by: Zille at October 12, 2004 04:53 AM

Have you ever participated in fisting? Yes!

If so, what role did you play, what gender was your partner, and what orifices have you (had) fisted?

I have been only on the giving end of fisting (one unsuccessful attempt of being on the receiving end). I haven't done it that often - you could count the number of times on one hand (ok, some pun intended.)
I really enjoy the intimacy of it, and the purely astonishing sensation of wearing a bracelet of muscle that is so powerful it feels like it could crush my hand. It always makes me feel really connected to my partner, and i love how every tiny move i make is amplified into an enormous sensation that i can read in their face and body. When someone gives me permission (or begs me) to fist them, i feel like i have been given a rare and awesome gift.

Posted by: misstasty at October 12, 2004 06:20 PM

damn, my sex life is boring. No fisting for me. Somehow I've always ended up with rather vanilla partners.

Posted by: Roxxie at October 12, 2004 08:17 PM

Have you ever participated in fisting? Yes!

If so, what role did you play, what gender was your partner, and what orifices have you (had) fisted?

I've been fisted many times. Fisted others a few. Orifices were, in all cases, cunt, though I've had a fist in my mouth once. Love both aspects to it. Though being fisted has for the moment been surpassed by my love of activities which lead to me ejaculating. (Perhaps the subject of another cydy entry.)

Posted by: starlinged at October 13, 2004 03:19 AM

Ah, well! A subject on my favorite sexual organs, which also happen to be the most extense and the heaviest sexual organs of the humane body, and indiscriminate of male and female.

Yes, I am talking about our skin and brain, because fisting is a sexual activity in which the second of these is especially involved, as in many other things considered non-vanilla sex. Except some limited cases of real physical boundaries, fisting, both anal and vaginal is a matter of the brain. Everybody knows both the ass and the vagina theoretically have the capability of, given proper patience, traning and stretching of receiving a hand, although I would agree that vaginal fisting among females is possibly much easier than in het couples, because of the given hand-size reasons. So it is a matter of being psichologically ready to receive a hand in either opening.

As far as actually engaging in fisting, yes, I have given vaginal fisting to a couple of women, to one of them on a regular basis, while our relation lasted. In a gay setting, I have only given fist once, but I really love watching it in leather places, and I will sometimes get involved with the fistee, assisting him in holding holding his bottle of poppers (amylnitrite), just cuddling him, rubbing his chest, and the whole situation, participating as a bit more than a spectator is really very interesting.

I have managed to self-fist myself, some years ago before I started gaining weight and became a bit less flexible :-( but have never been fisted, although I have promised my wife to try, and I really look forward to it. Pity is, she does not feel comfortable in a giving role, so I'll have to resort to our local "Eagle" Leather club, the problem mostly being that the local FistMaster (yes, he really looks lik an expert, but he is not at all my type) and I do not seem to match up too well.

Again, it's a brain thing, with a certain level of trust involved, so I'll have to wait to enjoy these pleasures until someone suitable comes along my way.

Women would be welcome to try, but this would require special approval and supervision procedures from my better half. Definitely supervision, since she never gets to watch me bend over, and *that* is something which would really turn her on.

Posted by: SysArch / Volker at October 13, 2004 04:00 PM


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If you're like me, though, you think of one thing: Fisting. That's right, ladies (and any reading gentlemen). It's time to talk about my all-time favorite sex subject, one that is dear to my heart. I have been getting fisted for a while now, though I've yet to be on the other side. (After my pictorial in OOB, a reader wrote in that she would be happy to let me try it on her, but of course it never happened!) Because I've been familiar with it for a while, I've also done a lot of research and answered a lot of questions. In one particular online community, I'm the so-called "expert" on the subject - which means I get plied with the same questions every couple of months. So, again, I'm very happy to write about this. Anyway! The first thing I want to say is that A Hand in the Bush is the absolute best book about vaginal fisting - in fact, I think it's the only one that focuses on that topic. (There are other fisting books, Trust: The Hand Book among them, but they tend to discuss anal fisting almost exclusively.) If you're curious about fisting females, if you want to try it, if you want to know why anybody would do such a horrible thing - you definitely need to read this book. I suspect that vaginal fisting is probably easier for lesbians than for heterosexual couples, simply because the female hand tends to be smaller than the male hand. I don't have actual figures, but it wouldn't surprise me in the least to find that a greater percentage of lesbians engage in it than straight women. And although ass fisting is more commonly seen as a practice among gay men, there's no reason a woman can't do it too. (I haven't - yet.) I'd like to pose a couple of questions in this entry; feel free to post your responses in the comments or use your own site. (Don't forget TrackBack!) Have you ever participated in fisting? If so, what role did you play, what gender was your partner, and what orifices have you (had) fisted? If not, are you interested in fisting? If not, what is it about the idea of fisting that you dislike? (What about it turns you off, or just disgusts you?) I look forward to reading your comments! Comments Have you ever participated in fisting? Yes! If so, what role did you play, what gender was your partner, and what orifices have you (had) fisted? I’ve happily been both giver and receiver! Female, and just vaginal so far, but looking forward to anal someday…. I love fisting very much … and what I love best about it is that amount of trust you put in someone to let them put their whole fist inside you. The thumb is always “the moment of truth” for me – if my partner can get me to relax enough (not freak out and tense up at the last moment) then really intense orgasms are very soon to follow … but most especially, a special bond between my and my partner. Fisting another girl … is always such a tender act for me. To be embraced by her whole … self … and to feel those orgasms moving her flesh … to see the look on her face … those moments my heart swells beyond belief! For gals who have trouble taking a fist, I found that a favorite vibrator held on your clit by your or your partner really makes all the difference. Oh, and of course LUBE LUBE LUBE LUBE! Posted by: Zille at October 12, 2004 04:53 AM Have you ever participated in fisting? Yes! If so, what role did you play, what gender was your partner, and what orifices have you (had) fisted? I have been only on the giving end of fisting (one unsuccessful attempt of being on the receiving end). I haven't done it that often - you could count the number of times on one hand (ok, some pun intended.) I really enjoy the intimacy of it, and the purely astonishing sensation of wearing a bracelet of muscle that is so powerful it feels like it could crush my hand. It always makes me feel really connected to my partner, and i love how every tiny move i make is amplified into an enormous sensation that i can read in their face and body. When someone gives me permission (or begs me) to fist them, i feel like i have been given a rare and awesome gift. Posted by: misstasty at October 12, 2004 06:20 PM damn, my sex life is boring. No fisting for me. Somehow I've always ended up with rather vanilla partners. Posted by: Roxxie at October 12, 2004 08:17 PM Have you ever participated in fisting? Yes! If so, what role did you play, what gender was your partner, and what orifices have you (had) fisted? I've been fisted many times. Fisted others a few. Orifices were, in all cases, cunt, though I've had a fist in my mouth once. Love both aspects to it. Though being fisted has for the moment been surpassed by my love of activities which lead to me ejaculating. (Perhaps the subject of another cydy entry.) Posted by: starlinged at October 13, 2004 03:19 AM Ah, well! A subject on my favorite sexual organs, which also happen to be the most extense and the heaviest sexual organs of the humane body, and indiscriminate of male and female. Yes, I am talking about our skin and brain, because fisting is a sexual activity in which the second of these is especially involved, as in many other things considered non-vanilla sex. Except some limited cases of real physical boundaries, fisting, both anal and vaginal is a matter of the brain. Everybody knows both the ass and the vagina theoretically have the capability of, given proper patience, traning and stretching of receiving a hand, although I would agree that vaginal fisting among females is possibly much easier than in het couples, because of the given hand-size reasons. So it is a matter of being psichologically ready to receive a hand in either opening. As far as actually engaging in fisting, yes, I have given vaginal fisting to a couple of women, to one of them on a regular basis, while our relation lasted. In a gay setting, I have only given fist once, but I really love watching it in leather places, and I will sometimes get involved with the fistee, assisting him in holding holding his bottle of poppers (amylnitrite), just cuddling him, rubbing his chest, and the whole situation, participating as a bit more than a spectator is really very interesting. I have managed to self-fist myself, some years ago before I started gaining weight and became a bit less flexible :-( but have never been fisted, although I have promised my wife to try, and I really look forward to it. Pity is, she does not feel comfortable in a giving role, so I'll have to resort to our local "Eagle" Leather club, the problem mostly being that the local FistMaster (yes, he really looks lik an expert, but he is not at all my type) and I do not seem to match up too well. Again, it's a brain thing, with a certain level of trust involved, so I'll have to wait to enjoy these pleasures until someone suitable comes along my way. Women would be welcome to try, but this would require special approval and supervision procedures from my better half. Definitely supervision, since she never gets to watch me bend over, and that is something which would really turn her on. Posted by: SysArch / Volker at October 13, 2004 04:00 PM Post a comment Thanks for signing in, . Now you can comment. (sign out) (If you haven't left a comment here before, you may need to be approved by the site owner before your comment will appear. Until then, it won't appear on the entry. Thanks for waiting.) 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