How to Date a Porn Star

March 15, 2008 | Uncategorized

Dating while working in the adult industry is weird. I’ve sworn off dating for the time being because I’m just so clueless. All the dates I’ve had in the past two years failed miserably because I just totally missed the cues to move the relationship forward. I failed so consistently I even questioned my queerness. I decided to write a personals ad, in my mind, in order to examine what was really going on for me. I don’t intend to post this ad on any personals site, but I’d like to hear any feedback.

Dating hater looking for someone who feels the same! W4W

I just plain hate dating. I work in the adult industry, so I seem to have very different ideas about personal interactions and relationships. I seem to be totally clueless about noticing cues to move the relationship past chatting and dinner. Porn, sex and things that are normally taboo and intimate is normal conversation for me. Bringing up the topic of sex toys or safe sex practices do not immediately strike me as, “want to have sex” talk.

I don’t want to talk about my job because it’s mostly pretty boring. It isn’t very glamorous either and I don’t make a ton of money. Just don’t be shocked when I have no qualms about talking about sex and kink and porn in a public space openly and freely. Also you can’t be shocked or upset that I’m intimately involved with other people and I take their money. I watch a ton of porn. If you’re curious or regularly pursue sex workers without being familiar with the sex worker community this probably won’t work. I’m not going to teach you how to be a sex worker or about the adult industry. Hipsters need not apply.

I need a woman that can communicate openly and clearly. She must be able to act assertive when I don’t pick up on the normal cues, and clearly state what she wants or does not want. I really just don’t pick up on normal cues, so don’t mistake my cluelessness for disinterest. Interest in sex-positive events, like erotic open mic nights or erotic film festivals is necessary. Being kinky is a bonus.

I’m tend towards soft-butch, but I also love to play with vintage and retro glamour styles. I have an extensive collection of stockings, girdles and vintage clothes. My makeup collection rivals any drag queen’s. I ride a motorcycle. I enjoy nightclubs, dancing, film, classic sci-fi, art, crafting, all types of music and cooking.

I’m really looking for someone with counterculture ideas who has been in very different non-traditional relationships. I’m not a normal person and I hope you’re not either.

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Comments

1. Kitty Says:
   

   I’d date you. But then, you know that. ::waggles eyebrows::

   BTW- your foot site is making a certain Glasgow boy very happy…

   April 2nd, 2008 at 12:46 pm

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