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Strap-On Advice
June 21, 2006 | 
Sex
I get asked for sex toy advice pretty often…go figure, I have a ton of them! Here’s the advice I usually give…
Blowfish and Good Vibrations - are excellent places to shop. Another favorite of mine is Toys in Babeland (now just called Babeland). It’s important to remember that you’re not buying “a strap-on dildo” as such, you’re actually buying a dildo and a harness to put it in. They’re generally two separate products.
The harness I recommend the most is the Texas 2-Strap (my wife and I each have one so we don’t have to adjust the straps so much) and the Terra Firma (also available in nylon) is a close second. These are often hard to manipulate if the wearer is pretty large, though, so I usually mention the Crown Harness as well because it’s designed for bigger bodies. All of these have straps that go around each leg, which I prefer because they’re more secure. If you want one that’s just got one strap (thong-style) go with the Thriller G. By the way, I don’t like synthetic (nylon) fabrics for harnesses. Backpack straps are also made out of nylon, and that’s what these sound like…the one time I used a synthetic harness, I couldn’t stop laughing because it sounded like a backpack bouncing along.
Dildos are hard to recommend because everybody wants something different…and so there are hundreds (if not thousands) of styles. Look through babeland.com, goodvibes.com, and blowfish.com for something you like. If you want a double dildo, I can’t recommend the Nexus (and its smaller cousin, Nexus Jr.) enough: they are designed to feel good for the person wearing the harness, too (most boomerang-style doubles just feel like they’re going to fall out). Just make sure that if you get a double, you get a harness that has the hole all the way through. I also recommend silicone over other materials: it’s safer, easier to clean, lasts longer, holds heat…there are a lot of reasons to use silicone dildos! (Price, unfortunately, is not one of them, but they’re worth the extra expense.)
So take a look around and pick out something you like. If all else fails, get a “kit” - the Bend Over Beginner set comes with everything you need.
Happy Pride Month
June 14, 2006 | News Reports
Happy Pride Month, everybody! I had a great time this past weekend during Capital Pride. On Saturday I interpreted for the DC Dyke March, and then participated in the march itself; you can check out pictures from that here; in the one with Dillon I’m the one in the yellow shirt and blue jeans. After the Dyke March I went over to the DC Eagle for some workshops given by a member of the local deaf leather community. I wanted to go to the big parade but I was exhausted from not sleeping well the previous night (the sunburn I got while interpreting didn’t help either) so I just headed home.
On Sunday I went to the big Pride block party. There’s nothing like celebrating your homosexuality literally in the shadow of the Capitol building! I managed to keep my spending to $10 - split between a donation to a cat-related charity, and purchasing a dog tag with the leather pride flag on it. I got to get up on the Main Stage - at Capital Pride! - to interpret for one of the performers, who I worked with before on the RSVP cruise last year.
Metro Weekly’s hardest-working photographer, Ward, was at both events…I can’t wait to see the pictures posted on the MW website!
New Girl Tools!
June 5, 2006 | CyDy Network
Hopefully my gentle readers won’t mind me tooting my own horn for a moment, because I just have to say that the new Girl Tools blog looks great! There are free reviews of sex toys there, and I’ll be posting one of my own soon. But the website used to be on Blogger, and I’m the one who got it ported to WordPress and got the new design implemented and working, etc. And now it’s live! Yay!
Mapping Our Rights
June 1, 2006 | Cool Links
The National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, Ipas, and Sister Song have collaborated on a site called Mapping Our Rights. It describes individual states in the U.S. and how they measure up on reproductive and sexual rights. There are personal stories from each state - a nice touch.
